Practice makes perfect

The 5 Steps seem to be obvious to some of us. It just seems like common sense. But if you are following the 5Steps or doing this consciously for the first few times, it may be slow going.
The hardest is knowing when to start. We are often too caught up in our daily routines. Problems disrupt those routines. We get upset and feel angry or worse lash out. We forget to stop and take a deep breath. And do the first step, admit that you have a problem and the second step, describe the problem. If you are facing a problem, do this now. Please stop reading, find a trusted friend, admit your problem and describe it to them. If you don't want to share it now, say it to out loud to yourself. It works best when you actually say it. If there are people around, take out you phone and pretend to make a call. Then take a piece of paper and write your problem down. Describe your problem in the shortest way possible. Then describe it with as many details as possible.
Good! You are on your way to a solution. Now you have to remember to take these steps every time a problem troubles you.