Knowing when to walk away

When solving a problem we can get caught up in the moment. Sometimes the choices that we are aware of are not the only choices available to us. They may seems so because of what other people around us tell us. It could also be the only thing we can think of in that moment. Looking at the seconds ticking away on the clock only increases the pressure on us. Like the walls are coming in on us.
It is times like that this that walking away, just for a while, can be useful. We are not walking away from the problem. We are looking for space and time to think or in a way, not think. Time away from environment of the problem can offer new perspectives. During that time away, our focus is on something else. The brain is a wonderful thing. Even as we are focusing on other things, it is still processing experience and input that we have just had. While we go to get a drink or take in fresh air, it is still building links and associations. Think of it as our brain is subconsciously working on the problem.
When time is of the essence, a good way to get a fresh perspective and possibly change ours, is to find someone who has little specific knowledge on the problem we are facing but some general information on the subject matter related to the problem. They know something about the subject but may not be specifically about our problem. Begin by explaining to them the problem. They will have a lot of questions but that is the point. Their questions will not only make things more clear to them but also to you. They will provide an outside-looking-in second set of eyes to our problem. They will likely ask questions you may have never thought of. They may find options not yet visible us. Or their questions may sound silly but answering them will either eliminate options to you or maybe hint at different way of thinking about the problem. The very least is that interacting with them give us time for mind to focus on something else so that when we do look back we have slightly different perspective.
This process is moving us from Step3, coming out with possible solutions or Step4, choosing the best option back to Step2, describing the problem. It is still counts as a step forward because are become that much closer to a solution.

If you do have time to get a new perspective do so. One of the best ways to quickly gain a new perspective is to go out and look at the sky. We humans are taught to be aware of our environment. For thousands of years, that has meant looking up at the sky wondering what kind of day it will be. What the sky looks like will change what we have planned for. It affects our decisions at a basic level. Think of it, one of the first things we teach children is to not go out in the rain. Looking at the sky also is the metaphor for choice. As wanderers, the ability to see the sky will determine how far we humans can go. Even if we can't go far, we reminded of the possibilities. Looking at the sky inspires whether its the night sky or the bright blue sky. People living in large cities with tall skyscrapers can tell you how limiting it feels when the sky is being blocked. It is one of the reasons people live high up or go up to their rood. Few things changes the human perspective like looking up at the sky. With that new perspective comes a fresh new vigor to solve our problems.

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